Looking For A Mate?
The year 2008 has passed and one of your resolutions for 2009 was to find yourself a man/woman but unfortunately you have no such good fortune so far. Could it be you were trying too hard or maybe you were sending the wrong signals.
Here are some tips to consider as you redouble your efforts to meet your soul mate
Women - how to get men to really notice you
- Just be yourself, don’t pretend to be what you are not. Forget the hype
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Remove the don’t come close sign. It is usually communicated via body language
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Be pleasant, smile a while and give your face a rest. Your admirer might just be captivated by it
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Be a lady , the swearing and boisterous behaviour just won’t make it
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Avoid being the centre of attraction if you are not required to be. If you have to be upfront, then be gracious
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Have a good command of the English language especially grammar
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Wear clothes that accentuate your physical attributes but don’t over do it. Leave something to the admirer’s imagination
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Don’t come on too strongly, it may scare off your admirer
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Don’t come too easy, this may also scare off the admirer
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Offer a helping hand if you can, not expecting anything in return. Be genuine
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Don’t be labeled an OPP ( other people property ) specialist
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Don’t be labeled a Begesha eg beg cell. phone or credit
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Don’t be labeled a gold digger
Men - how to get women to really notice you
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Be confident and self assured not self centred
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Be neatly attired. If you carry a pot belly wear it attractively
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Be genuine. Offer assistance without expecting a favour in return
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Be ambitious especially if you don’t have a lot of money
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Be respectful of women and be sensitive to their views, opinions and feelings
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Don’t be labeled a woman beater
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Don’t be labeled a player
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Develop a healthy sense of humour
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Develop the art of conversation. Don’t let sex be the only subject you can talk about
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Drop the macho hype and express your emotions openly
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Open the car door for her and when you both are entering a building allow her to go in before you
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When you drop her home don’t leave until she is safely in the house
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If for some reason you will be late for an appointment/date with her call her and explain the reasons
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Call her every now and again but DON’T crowd her. A telephone call at three in the morning is just plain idiotic
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On special occasions it’s not the size of the gift basket that truly matters but the simple gestures that express thoughtfulness and care
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When you are in a situation of conflict, don’t retaliate in a violent way. This will only embarrass her. Just be cool and stay in control
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If she says no to your sexual advances respect her right to deny you
Happy Hunting!!
N.B The person you are looking for may just be under your nose
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