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How To Get Attention
Sunday, November 22nd, 2009
Women - how to get men to really notice you
Just be yourself, don’t pretend to be what you are not. Forget the hype
Remove the “don’t come close sign”. It is usually communicated via body language
Be pleasant, smile a while. Your admirer might just be captivated by it
Be a lady , the bad word cursing,hard liquor drinking, heavy smoking and boisterous behaviour just won’t cut it
Avoid being the centre of attraction if you are not required to be. If you have to be upfront, then be gracious
Have a good command of the English language especially grammar
Wear clothes that accentuate your physical attributes but don’t over do it. Leave something to the admirer’s imagination
Don’t come on too strongly, it may scare off your admirer
Don’t come too easy, this may also scare off the admirer
Offer a helping hand if you can, not expecting anything in return. Be genuine
Don’t be labeled an OPP ( other people property ) specialist
Don’t be labeled a “Begesha” eg beg cell phone or credit
Don’t be labeled a gold digger
Men – how to get women to really notice you
Be confident and self assured not self centred
Be neatly attired. If you carry a pot belly wear it attractively
Be genuine. Offer assistance without expecting a favour in return
Be ambitious especially if you don’t have a lot of money
Be respectful of women and be sensitive to their views, opinions and feelings
Don’t be labeled a woman beater or a drunkard
Don’t be labeled a player
Develop a healthy sense of humour
Develop the art of conversation. Don’t let sex be the only subject you can talk about
Drop the macho hype and express your emotions openly
Open the car door for her and when you both are entering a building allow her to go in before you
When you drop her home don’t leave until she is safely in the house
If for some reason you will be late for an appointment/date with her call her and explain the reasons
Call her every now and again but DON’T crowd her. A telephone call at three in the morning is just plain idiotic
On special occasions it’s not the size of the gift basket that truly matters but the simple gestures that express thoughtfulness and care
When you are in a situation of conflict, don’t retaliate in a violent way. This will only embarrass her. Just be cool and stay in control
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